Are you safe in the company of a person you once loved? is your estranged husband or boyfriend harmless or are they a threat to your security? sometimes it is difficult to know if they have a vendetta against you. the bitterness of the break up might still be there mixed with personal differences and hatred. take precautions by avoiding secluded areas that you know might spring a surprise for you. Avoid deserted parks and those paths and routes you used to take together for nature walks. You never know what is in store for you. your estranged husband or boyfriend could be trying to re-live the memories by retracing the steps you once took together. What about bumping into each other in such areas. You might also be trailed without your knowledge.
If at all your estranged husband or boyfriend wants to personally meet you, ensure you are in the company of a third person. do not ever agree to meet him alone. You do not know what he might be planning. always be accompanied to such meetings whether he protests or not. Make him not to have a choice. He must honor the arrangement or forget meeting you altogether. Let them not set conditions for you. be the one calling the shots and avoid being compromised. Stick to your guns. do not just walk into a pre arranged meeting with him. neither should you take orders from him. You should make him aware of their rightful places. He is your ex and he should either listen to your conditions or forget meeting you.
You estranged husband or boyfriend should not be a a visitor to your house. Unless granted permission by a court of law, your residence should remain out of bounds for him. do not make a mistake of arranging meetings with your estranged husband or boyfriend in your house. You might never see the light of day neither should you agree to any proposal that suggests your residence as meting point. the restaurants and hotels are not full, make your meeting arrangements there. also make sure that is where you will be meeting henceforth. the reason why a hotel or restaurant is the best place is because you are not alone. You will not feel cowed, afraid or intimidated. neither can your estranged husband or boyfriend think of doing anything stupid. your security is guaranteed.
You can decide to change your address and relocate to another state or city far away from your estranged husband or boyfriend. a change is as good as a new beginning. if you feel suffocated by your ex, you can always take flight to a new environment as a precautionary measure. start a new life and let bygones be bygones. You will no longer be glancing over your shoulder now and then. Let him not know your departure as well as your destination. it is also advisable to avoid confrontations with your estranged husband or boyfriend. They may turn out messy. always walk out when the dialog turns out to be a heated verbal exchange.